Would You?

This weekend my oldest nephew spent the weekend with me. We had such a good time hanging out together and I hope that as he gets older, he still wants to come visit.

I did have something happen that put a damper on Friday night. I updated my status on Facebook and posted Budzo's picture letting all of my friends know what we were doing for the weekend. One of my 'friends' IM'd me less than 10 minutes later and commented on his picture. My nephew has been growing his hair out and it is now down to his shoulders. I think it looks good on him and he likes it. Something I didn't know is that he is growing his hair to donate to Locks of Love. How many 11 year old boys do that? Anyway, the message I got from my 'friend' said something along the lines of this:

Oh my God, look at his hair! It is so long! You should tell him to cut it because he looks like a girl or a white trash boy.

I was such in a state of shock from reading her message that it took me several minutes to respond. I told her that I liked it and so did he. Her response:

Oh - LOL - You two have a good weekend.

Now who in their right mind says something like that about a child? How can someone call you friend and then say something like that? I think part of this may be my fault because on several occasions I have had a conversation with this friend regarding my brother. My comments about my brother are rarely censored or kind. Maybe she felt that because I talk about my brother in the way that I do, that it would be okay for her to talk about his son. But do my actions justify hers? And even if the justification is there, does that mean it is okay for her to talk about my brother's child and not my brother himself? Am I making too much out of this? Am I letting my somewhat recent experiences with this friend guide me into finding the wrong in this situation?

I don't know but I do know that I am not inclined to continue on in this friendship. I really believe that regardless of our past conflicts and good times, what she said was unacceptable.